How to Include Your Children in Your Wedding Ceremony

Meaningful Roles for the Little Loves in Your Life

Your wedding day is about celebrating your love story, and if you have children, they’re a huge part of that story! Including your kids in your ceremony not only makes them feel special, but it also creates unforgettable moments that symbolize the joining of your family. 💖

Not sure where to start? Here are some creative and meaningful ways to involve your kids in your big day, no matter their age or personality!

1. Little Stars of the Procession

Kids love to make an entrance, and there’s no better way to kick things off than by having them as part of the procession.

• Flower Girl or Ring Bearer: Classic and adorable!

• Petal Runner: Let them sprinkle flowers or confetti down the aisle.

• Walking with you: A perfect way to symbolize unity as a family.

2. Part of the Ceremony Itself

Why not weave them directly into the heart of your ceremony?

Ideas:

• Unity Rituals: Include your kids in rituals like a family handfasting. Each person adds their part, symbolizing your new family bond.

• Vows to the Kids: Write special vows to your children, promising your love and commitment to them as part of your marriage. (Cue the happy tears!)

• Present a small token: you exchange rings, so why not gift your children with something, a necklace or bracelet, or a pounamu, to show your love and honour their role in your family.

A special gift, creating a special moment of inclusion for your children during the ceremony.

3. Special Readings or Performances

If your kids are confident speakers or performers, this is their time to shine.

Options:

• A reading: Choose a poem, quote, or even a short speech they’d like to deliver.

• Musical performance: If they play an instrument or love to sing, let them share their talent during the ceremony.

• Original writing: Older kids might want to write a heartfelt message to share.

4. Mini Wedding Party Members

Your kids don’t have to be spectators, they can play important roles in your wedding party.

5. Ring Security (aka Adorable Comedy Relief)

If your kids have a cheeky sense of humour, let them have some fun! Dress them up as “ring security,” complete with sunglasses and a little briefcase. It’s a crowd-pleaser, and they’ll love being the stars of the show!

6. Family-First Exit

After the ceremony, let your kids lead the way in a joyful family exit. Hand them confetti poppers, flower petals, bubble guns or ribbons to celebrate as you walk down the aisle together as a newly united family.

7. Give Them a Shoutout During the Reception

During your speech or as part of your MC duties (hint hint 😉), make a heartfelt toast to your kids, thanking them for their love and support. It’s a small but meaningful gesture that will make them feel cherished.

8. Let Them Be Themselves

Finally, remember that the best moments often happen when kids get to just be kids. Whether they’re being cheeky, shy, or stealing the show with their charm, embrace the chaos and let their personalities shine.

The Bottom Line

Including your children in your ceremony is about more than just giving them a role - it’s about honouring their place in your life and making them feel part of this incredible day. Whether they sprinkle petals, deliver rings, or simply stand by your side, their involvement will make your wedding even more meaningful.

💌 Want more ideas or help weaving your kids into your ceremony? Let’s chat! Together, we’ll create a day that celebrates everyone you love. 💖